"What Happens in Vegas Stays in Vegas"

 

It's hard to explain the importance of something like this without sounding extremely suspect. But that's all right, even when I shouldn't be I'm used to being something of an outlier in my outlook. So.

There are concepts that intermittently wander in and out of the collective psyche of the general populace. As abstract concepts, they're not inherently bad. As active methodology? They're terrible.

Keep that firmly in mind when I say "enthusiastic consent" is arguably the biggest red flag possible in terms of any sort of potential intimacy.

Consent is rather like a Lovecraftian eldritch horror.
-The more active attention you give it, the more dangerous it gets.
-In any given place, the more you think it needs mentioning, the less likely you belong there.

Comfort is founded on approval. "Yes" is not something to be granted- it's the default. "No" as a concept is something more dangerous, which means it's obliged to have requirements. Those requirements vary widely in scope, scale, and urgency based on circumstance, but the possibility of going from "Yes" to "No" requires the approval of all involved. 

Currently, there is a widely held erroneous belief that it's the other way around.

Building an environment where everyone understands the ebb and flow of the people and things in it? Where understanding and trust are the order of the day, but also that accepts duty, obligation, the possibility of conflict, and of allowing resolution within it? Not terribly difficult- if the components have also been built correctly. So of course, the real problem is flawed foundations. 

Build your microcosm, your networks, and your happiness. Your education, expertise, ethics, and empathy.
But don't neglect to build your armor, sword, and shield.

Work? Nah.

 

I don't really like my primary job. It forces me to do things I really should never be doing, and doing them on behalf of people that mostly should never have existed in the first place.

To be fair though, I've only ever held one job I enjoyed enough to justify staying even if something more lucrative or stable came along- and then the plague killed it.

Plus, it's not like I've ever worked for an operation or company where I wasn't qualified to run the whole thing- and I've worked for some Very Big Companies in varying capacities. Hand off a c-suite to yours truly and long lasting success is almost inevitable with how easy it would be, so long as the underlying purpose is valid. Not that there are many valid businesses out in the world these days. All but a precious few are designed specifically to fabricate a need rather than fill one, and then sell a service that undoes the harm the company itself provided. It's recursive, wasteful, and full of fakery.